COMING SOON
The Restless Mind
Four Short Practices to Stop Overthinking, featuring the All-Clear Method. Your Four Practices is a free sample of the entry-level practices; the book is the whole program.
Awareness
Short practices to build awareness, so you see and understand life as it is, including your own thought loops. When you catch them and note the patterns, they lose their grip, and instead of being pulled around, you begin to decide what comes next — Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, the teacher of Pema Chödrön would call that real progress.
Anchoring
Simple anchors, like the breath, bring you back to the present when thoughts pull you away — and calm the nervous system. In the SEAL Teams, mine was a modified box breath. With regular practice, the internal tug-of-war for your attention ends, and what remains is simply peace and quiet.
Grounding
So much disappointment comes from unmet expectations, and it’s optional: when a hope falls short, it’s usually a sign it wasn’t grounded in the actual probabilities. In my studies, I learned to stay with what is, not what I wish for. A thirty-second reflection on what’s real, through your own direct experience, can spare you a letdown that was optional all along. This is closing the Reality Gap — the distance between what you expect and what’s actually so. The test is simple: is this provable, or am I taking a story for a fact?
Alignment
Take a moment to name what you want most and why. Then kindly notice whether your thoughts, words, and actions point toward it — Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, the teacher of Pema Chödrön taught me that nothing is neutral. A daily check prevents a small drift from becoming a life you didn’t choose.
Together, the four are the All-Clear Method — the incremental application of four short practices to reduce needless suffering.
EARLY READERS
“I saw my husband on every page. Then I saw myself.”
— Donna P., Executive Coach
“I felt calmer and sharper after just a few weeks of daily practice.”
— Stephanie R., Business Owner
“What a relief — I can finally relax without all the churn.”
— Jack B., Project Director